Better Than Before

Better Than Before

Mastering the Habits of Our Everyday Lives

Book - 2015
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"Habits are the invisible architecture of our lives. Rubin provides an analytical and scientific framework from which to understand these habits--as well as change them for good. Infused with her compelling voice and funny stories, she illustrates the core principles of habit formation with dozens of strategies that she uses herself and tests out on others. Rubin provides tools to help readers better understand themselves, and presents a clear, practical menu of strategies so readers can take an individualized approach. She tackles each strategy herself and in doing so shows us the importance of knowing ourselves and our own habit tendencies. Armed with self-knowledge, we can pursue habits in ways that will truly work for us, not against us. Going to the gym can be as easy, effortless, and automatic as putting on a seatbelt. We can file expense reports, take time for fun, or pass up that piece of carrot cake without having to decide. With a foundation of good habits, we can build a life that reflects our values and goals"-- Provided by publisher.
Publisher: New York : Crown Publishers, [2015]
Edition: First edition.
ISBN: 9780385348614
0385348614
Branch Call Number: 158.1 RUB
Characteristics: xii, 298 pages : illustration ; 25 cm

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BookwormAlert
Apr 13, 2020

This self-help, nonfiction book talks about habits, and how habits improve our lives.
The author explains how habits are the be-all and end-all of life itself. Habits are the backbone with which we can take control of our lives, and without habits we won’t have any structure. We need habits for good decision-making, in order to keep our lives in a routine so we will feel less anxious. Therefore, it is important to develop good habits, and to break away from bad habits.
The author additionally describes how there are four types of personality types “based on how people respond to inner and outer expectations.” These are called the four tendencies: Upholders, Questioners, Obligers, and Rebels. This personality-framework is the basis for the author’s other book called “The Four Tendencies”.
This book was disappointing and pointlessly long. The relevance of this book can be wrapped up in one sentence: to form a habit, do the same thing every day – don’t even think about it. I wouldn’t recommend this book.

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machonon
Aug 23, 2019

I'm going to stop reading this because I find it a bit tedious and the Charles Duhigg habit book is much more compelling right now. That said, there are some intuitive truths in here, particularly the commonsense notion that everyone's habit forming tendencies are different. At least, this validates my feelings about all those krazy articles that try to convince you that the first bite of dessert is the most satisfying so you can just take a bite and pass it along. Um, that last bite of dessert is DELICIOUS y'all, and apparently this is because I am an Abstainer. I don't go around starting a dessert unless I mean business. On the other hand, my annoyingly good-habited spouse is a Moderator, which means he is perfectly capable of bringing home delicious snacks, purportedly to be eaten at some mythic moment in the future when he'll want to eat some of them in a moderate fashion. But I can tell you that he never does eat them, and the reason I know this is because I have eaten all the snacks already.

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nanane
Jul 02, 2019

Gotta be honest, seriously disappointed. I loved The Happiness Project. This kinda felt like a recycled quote book from a thrift store. Nothing new or interesting, no sense of personal connection.

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1aa
Jan 24, 2019

Its an extremely well read audiobook - read by the author (who tend to be poor performers). She divides people into four tendencies (upholder, obliger, rebel, and questioner) and uses this to discuss all sorts of aspects of habits: creating conveniences and inconveniences, conflicts of values, monitoring, how to craft rewards, clarity of actions (specificity, the elimination of further interpretations and decisions), and much more. There are no chapters, its just section after section. The prefatory remarks are important to keep in mind: most of the book is useless to the reader, but one can easily be led astray by thinking that one could give advice or help a friend.

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amchale13
Jan 08, 2019

This book was very insightful in regards to the different types of people and how we form our habits. Gretchen does an excellent job of explaining diffferent concepts or “Strategies” and provides specific examples of how they apply to her life and the lives of others she interacts with. She keeps the reader engaged and is relatable.

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Pam70
Nov 25, 2017

I did found this book somewhat useful but didn't like it as much as her earlier books. There is a lot of repetition, a lot of filler, and I was sometimes annoyed that Rubin's advice seemed to apply more to other people than herself (the diet cola, for instance).

3 stars

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Indoorcamping
Oct 28, 2017

This will start you on the life-changing magic that is Gretchen Rubin. It's hard to underestimate the effect this book will have on your day and your life, and the advice that comes out of your mouth when people are dealing with issues of any subject. It's like the best mom advice ever, plus stories, plus reassurance that you're just fine just the way you are. And more.

From this, I read all her other books and listened to her podcast, every one at least once, even though I can't stand her voice and definitely cannot stand her sister's voice. But they're adorable and positive, and if I were a rich girl I'd want to grow up and be just like this woman. She could have been a rich lawyer, married to the son of a famous Treasury Secretary and been rich, rich, entitled, rich. But she isn't at all like this. She seems so . . . human. So almost relatable. Most of the time.

So much valuable information that has made me a better person, and in turn made everyone I know a better person. I've bought this book about a dozen times to give as gifts and every person who received it has also become a huge fan. She's got something and if you ask me, this is her best effort so far.

ArapahoeAnna Jun 07, 2017

Rubin devised the “Four Tendencies” framework to describe how a person responds to expectations as Upholder, Questioner, Obliger or Rebel. She analyzes the best ways to create, maintain or delete habits for each type of person. If you liked "The Power of Habit" by Charles Duhigg, you might like this book too.

Aikomarsi Apr 06, 2017

I agree with the previous reviewer on all points. My only criticism is that I would prefer to have this one in print. I did, however learn plenty that is applicable and I look forward to picking it up in print so that I can truly delve in. (I only listen to my books on tape when driving, so it's hard for a note taker like myself to really apply what I learned without being able to write down what I need to retain).

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ElNNEJ
Jan 13, 2017

This is beautifully written, and a very easy to listen to audio book, read by the author. I couldn't wait to get into the car, just to listen to the audio book. I found useful tips on creating and maintaining new habits, and reasons for why some habits are hard to break or start. My review could go on and on. Overall, very enjoyable!

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Feb 28, 2018

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