Saturday Night Widows

Saturday Night Widows

The Adventures of Six Friends Remaking Their Lives

Book - 2013
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Six marriages, six heartbreaks, one shared beginning.
In her forties - a widow, too young, too modern to accept the role - Becky Aikman struggled to make sense of her place in an altered world. In this transcendent and infectiously wise memoir, she explores surprising new discoveries about how people experience grief and transcend loss and, following her own remarriage, forms a group with five other young widows to test these unconventional ideas. Together, these friends summon the humor, resilience, and striving spirit essential for anyone overcoming adversity.
Meet the Saturday Night Widows: ringleader Becky, an unsentimental journalist who lost her husband to cancer; Tara, a polished mother of two, whose husband died in the throes of alcoholism after she filed for divorce; Denise, a widow of just five months, now struggling to get by; Marcia, a hard-driving corporate lawyer; Dawn, an alluring self-made entrepreneur whose husband was killed in a sporting accident, leaving two small children behind; and Lesley, a housewife who returned home one day to find that her husband had committed suicide.
The women meet once a month, and over the course of a year, they strike out on ever more far-flung adventures, learning to live past the worst thing they thought could happen. They share emotional peaks and valleys - dating, parenting, moving, finding meaningful work, and reinventing themselves - while turning traditional thinking about loss and recovery upside down. Through it all runs the story of Aikman's own journey through grief and her love affair with a man who tempts her to marry again. In a transporting story of what friends can achieve when they hold each other up, "Saturday Night Widows" is a rare book that will make you laugh, think, and remind yourself that despite the utter unpredictability and occasional tragedy of life, it is also precious, fragile, and often more joyous than we recognize.
Publisher: New York : Crown Pub., c2013.
Edition: 1st ed.
ISBN: 9780307590435
Branch Call Number: 306.883 AIK
Characteristics: 337 p. ; 22 cm.


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Librarian_Deb Jan 28, 2018

The author was widowed young and found herself not fitting it with the traditional sort of widows group. She got tired of being handed information about the stages of grief and decided to branch out and form her own kind of support group. She wanted the focus of the group to be on living and tryi... Read More »

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Librarian_Deb Jan 28, 2018

The author was widowed young and found herself not fitting it with the traditional sort of widows group. She got tired of being handed information about the stages of grief and decided to branch out and form her own kind of support group. She wanted the focus of the group to be on living and trying new experiences. So she started asking around and meeting with potential members. That leads to the first meeting of the "Saturday Night Widows" - a meeting where she is fraught with anxiety about how the whole project is going to go. However after some initial awkwardness, the group begins to become just what she had believed it would be - a place for women to shed their "widow's weeds" and encourage one another as they face life solo. This book is a chronicle of their first year, and I felt truly privileged to hear the remarkable stories of these women and how they tackled overcoming the enormous losses in their lives. I felt like I learned a bit about life and grieving from their experiences, as I laughed, cried, and ruminated over what it means to take the best pieces of the past forward into the future. I highly recommend this book to anyone, and most especially those who have struggled with a great loss.

Jun 07, 2013

I was widowed a year-and-a-half ago at 62. I found this book enlightening, comforting, validating, and real.

I am interested in talking or meeting with other widows who have read this book. There are few widows my age, and talking to others facing the same challenges seems like a helpful idea. .

WendyKeyes May 27, 2013

For any of my friends who are or who know widow(s}, I heartily reccommend the book "Saturday Night Widows" by Becky Aikman. I so wish that book had been around when I was struggling to "reinvent" myself after being widowed, not once but twice. Of all the books I read on the subject while preparing to become a bereavement counsellor, this one I think has the most to offer those widows of any age who don't want to remain stuck in their grief, who are ready and want to move forward, and who need the support and understanding of likeminded women who can nurture each other during the otherwise lonely journey of recovery. Well written with humour and compassion, this book chronicles the adventures of six NEW friends who are gathered together with only one common denominator: widowhood. We can see a little of ourselves in each of the women, feel their pain, and cheer for their courage and strength to seek and accept new opportunities for a happy life again.

Cdnbookworm Feb 14, 2013

The book chronicles a year in the lives of six women, all widows, none of whom knew each other before their first meeting. Becky had tried to go to a widows support group a few months after her husband passed away from cancer, but was asked not to return. She thought their had to be a better way than the short experience she had there of focusing on one's grief, and began research on this type of loss.
She participated in a psychological study, and discussed current research with a couple of psychologists doing research in the area of grief. And she got the idea to find other women who had been widowed relatively young and get together once a month to support each other in moving forward with their lives. The women all live in or near New York City, and have been widowed for between 5 months and 5 years at their first meeting. They range in age from their 30s to their 50s, and some have children and some don't. I would describe them as middle to upper middle class, and well-educated. Becky herself is already remarried by the time of their first meeting.
As she chronicles their growing friendship, the strong bond that grows between them, and their lives moving forward, we see that the women take the positive outlook, and while they will never stop loving their husbands, they do move forward with their lives and gain new experiences, and enter new relationships.
This is an interesting and uplifting book that begins with loss, but ends with optimism for the future.


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